Down the street thousands of church goers are ecstatically enjoying summer camp.
Down the hill my neighbors are partying it up with really loud (thankfully good) music.
Down the path the bobcat is hunting dinner
Down the hall the child is sleeping
and down here I am showered and calm and ready to lay down with my new book.
How to shield oneself.
Given that all almost every pagan I have met is some form of empath one of the first thing I teach my students is how to ground and how to shield. If you are an empath going out in the world without a shield is like leaving your home out into a blizzard without a coat.
There are lots of different ways to do this and you are going to have to find one that works for you. If you are an empath it is absolutely irresponsible to not to learn and practice these skills. You can cause harm to yourself and your family. You know the saying if mama ain’t happy aint no body happy. Well if you just walk around like a giant magnet for everyone’s energy you’re going to feel icky and that affects your family. You may also start to feel depressed or fatigued and you not only don’t need to but you shouldn’t have to. That choice however is up to you. I know I may sound harsh but I am so saddened by the amount of sensitive souls I see that are harming themselves and then feeling awful and sometimes lashing out at others. I don’t want you to be in pain. I don’t want you to suffer. I want you to take responsibility for your care.
How to ground.
This is the one I use and teach but there are others.
To start with you must take deep breaths and calm yourself. Breathe yourself into your body. Wiggle your toes and shift your attention to each part of your body. When you get to your crown breathe in and then visualize roots coming out of your feet or your bum going down, down, down into the earth. If say you are on the 30th floor you just have to visualize really long roots. Make your roots strong and feel yourself as part of the earth. Let excess energy flow down the roots into the earth.
How to shield.
Center yourself and slow and deepen your breath. (Yes you can do this in public without people noticing) you are going to want to create a bubble around you. You can do it several ways here is just a few.
1. Breath out and blow your bubble up so that it surrounds you.
2. Picture a golden (or color of your choice) starting at your feet and swirling up around you creating a shield around you.
3. Again breath in and out and picture a bright light glowing inside of you and you breath in it grows and grows until you are surrounded in blinding bright light.
You get my point it. Working with your breath you are going to construct some sort of bubble around you. When you are in a situation that you feel to be particularly bad see your bubble as a mirror. See your reflection in it and picture the energy or emotion coming at you being reflected back to the own of it.
A final note. I have heard some folks say they don’t like this idea as they feel it will make them disconnected with their loved ones or the energy exchange that they do with their children. This can be true or it cannot be true. It is completely up to you and how you build your bubble or circle. You can also use words to set your intention of your bubble. Such as
“Within this bubble I’m safe from unwanted energy or emotion. I am in charge of my being and in charge of my energy. I freely let energy flow unless it would be harmful for me.”
This might not be easy at first and that’s ok. It is a learned skill and the more you do it the easier it will become. Eventually you will be able to just snap a bubble around you or put up a mirror when you feel unwanted energy.
you can’t really see it in this picture but in the middle of all this foliage is one of my favorite animals. can you see who or guess who?
Tonight I was talking with some dear friends about how we celebrate. Now you know me and my goal is to celebrate life to its fullest all the way.
What I was thinking about particularly is celebrating religious holidays. Because I’m pagan I know a lot of pagans that don’t celebrate at all or think they can’t celebrate because no one else they know does. I on the other hand will often celebrate any Sabbat 3 times at least.
1. I celebrate with the Coven with a ritual and magic and food
2. with the family with food
3. with myself. depending on the Sabbat with a spell or an activity with morning meditation.
How do you celebrate? With others by yourself? not at all?
ug I’m so tired. I am trying (as per norm) to do to many things and because you know I have free time I have talked some really awesome wonderful women into writing as a collaborative team. Its going to be great! but of course it is more time but at least life is being lived to the fullest.
We have been having a rough bit of it with family. Little is currently trying my patients I am pretty sure it should be spelled tri-ing for 3 because 3 is a hard age. For everyone. She screams a lot happy, sad, mad, all of it is at full volume. All emotions are at full volume too. She feels everything strongly.
I think some days I’m just to worn down to think of new creative ways to make our days smoother. If you have ideas by all means let me know. I’m not a mom that thinks I know it all. I am mom who is trying to survive in a way that make life not only tolerable but happy for everyone.
I know she is a little off right now because Hubs was gone for a few days. We got a call one morning that his dad had congestive heart failure and was in a coma so two hours later and I’m driving him to the airport. he was gone for 3 days and her being a daddy’s girl was just plain miserable. Which means that I was too but he is home now and tomorrow is a new day. I think we will start tomorrow by making pancakes.
Hub’s dad is now out of his coma but not out of the woods. Hubby is taking it hard of course and I am trying to figure out how to be most supportive but he doesn’t want to talk about it.
Well I was going to talk about food tonight but I guess I had other stuff one my mind. Thanks for being out there and “listening”
sometimes I feel like people expect me to be more witch like. I’m not sure what they are expecting but I’m fairly sure it is not a short slightly plump normal looking person. Maybe I should dress in all black or maybe like a gypsy so I seem more witch like 🙂
Sometimes folks find out I’m a witch or I “believe” in witchcraft and they are like hey do something witchy.
unfortunately my witchy gift means I can tell you way more than you want to know about yourself and no one likes that party trick.