E is for Esteem (spell)

I know I missed D but for all the other ones make sure you check out my Book of Magic.

This is an old spell and it is not mine, I don’t think. I know the first time I did it with someone was well over 10 years ago. I was working at a domestic violence shelter and one of our clients was pagan so we did this for her. I will always remember the profound impact it had on her. She had tears streaming down her face during it and in the end it did work.

First up write a list of 11 things you are proud of. Things you do well  and they can be anything from balancing the checkbook, cooking, writing, meeting deadlines at work. you get the point no matter how big or how small. Then write a list of 10 things you wish you did better, or you feel you don’t do well. Again no matter how little how little or how small.

Take both lists and find a mirror. It can be a full mirror or hand-held mirror. you may light a candle if you like.

Look yourself in the eyes. This is not as easy as it sounds.
say ” I love you (your name)  because you (something from your good list)
“I love you (your name) because you (something from your bad list)
Alternate as you go through the list. you will start and end with something you feel you do well. Make sure you are looking yourself in the eye as you tell your self all the reasons you love you.

so as an example
I love you Poppy because you cook nice good food for your family
I love you Poppy because you cannot balance a checkbook

This can then be followed for as long as needed with a one line love letter journal entry. Every day write one thing you love about yourself.

Self esteem does not crash overnight and it may take a time to build it back up. You are wonderful as the person you are right now. We all have flaws and waiting for us to be perfect before we love ourselves is seating ourselves, our family and society up to fail. Be kind to yourself. You are amazing!

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  1. Thanks! I’ve struggled with esteem issues for pretty much my whole life, trying to live up to “better” siblings. This is one more great spell I can add to my arsenal of fighting negative self-feelings.

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