Yesterday I had two other parents have issues with what my child was doing. One was minor my child was climbing on a wood fence in the rain. We went for a walk along a lovely path next to the ocean and we stopped to talk to a nice lady with fun rain boots and a handsome dog. Little (as always) was interested in the dog but she knows you have to ask the person before you can pet. The dog in question was a Pit so the owner was standing between us and the sweet dog who was standing there with perfect manners. I told her we love Pits and Little said that dog looks like Apollo and so we told the lady the story about our sweet pouch Apollo and how we had to get him a new home because of a neighbor. We talked about how people are so wrong about Pits and Little had enough of us talking and went to do her own thing. The lady was sweet enough to just nod in Littles direction.
The other lady was borderline crazy. before our walk we dropped off my mom for her doctor’s appointment. As we took the elevator down another woman with her child joined us. I think he daughter must have been about 8. Little was touching outside of the elevator doors as we waited for it to come to our floor. The doors started to open and the lady let out this crazy scream with what might have been words if she was not borderline hysterical. She turned to me and said “she could have had her fingers pinched off, did you see?” all wide-eyed and panicky. I smiled back at her. The kids tried to push the button for the ground floor and her daughter was able to, Little was too short. I told Little “oh looks like your not tall enough yet.” The other lady said “do you want me to hold her up?” I said no. I thought What are you crazy? she can’t reach it is ok. I don’t think this will be a defining moment in her self esteem.
But later as i was walking I did that thing that all moms do and wondered. I am not paying attention enough. Do I let my kid do risky things am I a bad mom. Ok I know I am not a bad mom it is just that train of thought you go on when you get criticized by multiple people. So this morning this found me and it made me feel much better.